"Don't Fight Back"

And 10 Other Myths About Crime, Personal Safety, and Gender-Based Violence

Author Meg Stone
Narrator Julie McKay
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On sale May 05, 2026 | 6 Hours and 0 Minutes | 9780807023303

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From a nationally recognized abuse-prevention expert, an accessible guide that debunks the most pervasive myths about personal safety and offers evidence-based advice that actually improves safety

We receive a lot of advice about how to stay safe in society. Sometimes the advice is about the nature of violence or crime and other times it is a common directive about what people should do to keep us away from potential danger.

Meg Stone, an expert in personal safety and empowerment self-defense, traces the origins of these dangerous myths, and explains why safety isn't defined by men in power telling us what they think makes us safe.

Stone breaks down these myths into 4 parts:
  1. how attackers behave (“Don’t Fight Back. It Will Make the Attacker Angry and You’ll Get Hurt Worse."),
  2. what (or who) to fear ("Crime Is at an All-Time High and Going Up"),
  3. what you should never do ("Don’t Wear a Ponytail. An Attacker Could Grab It."); and
  4. what you should always do ("Always Trust Your Intuition")
She addresses how many of the myths are completely wrong and not based on any real evidence. Stone also spends time unpacking the kinds of myths that can't be disproven or are more nuanced than just "helpful" or "not helpful."

Each chapter also offers advice for individuals to keep themselves safer and also how to contribute to social change when these myths are perpetuated.

She concludes with a powerful treatise about how to be truly safe—or at least safer—in a world that lacks evidence, using lessons she has learned from her 20+ years teaching self-defense.
Meg Stone is the executive director of IMPACT Boston, an abuse-prevention and empowerment self-defense organization. Her writing has been published in Huffington Post, Newsweek, Washington Post, Boston Globe, Dame, and Ms. She has received numerous awards for her work over the past thirty years. Meg lives in Cambridge, Massachusetts, with her partner, Mal, and a shockingly large collection of musical theater cast albums.

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From a nationally recognized abuse-prevention expert, an accessible guide that debunks the most pervasive myths about personal safety and offers evidence-based advice that actually improves safety

We receive a lot of advice about how to stay safe in society. Sometimes the advice is about the nature of violence or crime and other times it is a common directive about what people should do to keep us away from potential danger.

Meg Stone, an expert in personal safety and empowerment self-defense, traces the origins of these dangerous myths, and explains why safety isn't defined by men in power telling us what they think makes us safe.

Stone breaks down these myths into 4 parts:
  1. how attackers behave (“Don’t Fight Back. It Will Make the Attacker Angry and You’ll Get Hurt Worse."),
  2. what (or who) to fear ("Crime Is at an All-Time High and Going Up"),
  3. what you should never do ("Don’t Wear a Ponytail. An Attacker Could Grab It."); and
  4. what you should always do ("Always Trust Your Intuition")
She addresses how many of the myths are completely wrong and not based on any real evidence. Stone also spends time unpacking the kinds of myths that can't be disproven or are more nuanced than just "helpful" or "not helpful."

Each chapter also offers advice for individuals to keep themselves safer and also how to contribute to social change when these myths are perpetuated.

She concludes with a powerful treatise about how to be truly safe—or at least safer—in a world that lacks evidence, using lessons she has learned from her 20+ years teaching self-defense.

Author

Meg Stone is the executive director of IMPACT Boston, an abuse-prevention and empowerment self-defense organization. Her writing has been published in Huffington Post, Newsweek, Washington Post, Boston Globe, Dame, and Ms. She has received numerous awards for her work over the past thirty years. Meg lives in Cambridge, Massachusetts, with her partner, Mal, and a shockingly large collection of musical theater cast albums.

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