How to Deal with Your ____ So Your Kids Don't Have to

An Encyclopedia for Ditching Your Emotional Baggage

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A practical roadmap for anyone determined to parent differently than they were raised.

Because our kids can feel what we don't heal.


The one book you wish your parents had, and your children will be glad you read. 

Healing from your own upbringing is hard enough—but how do you do that work while being the parent you wish you had?

In this potent resource for parents and parents-to-be, licensed therapist and educator Eli Harwood targets the feelings, mindsets, and habits that often sabotage our parenting. Organized alphabetically by growth areas—many of which are symptoms of an insecure or traumatic past—this book provides punchy guidance to heal from things like:  

  • dealing with anger and anxiety
  • our relationship with body image
  • our tendency for people-pleasing and comparing ourselves (and our kids)

...so our kids don't have to.

This book will help you heal yourself in order to become the best parent you can be.
ELI HARWOOD, MA, LPC is a licensed therapist, bestselling author, and highly sought-after educator who has almost two decades of experience helping people develop secure connections with their children. She is on a mission to help make the world a better place, one relationship at a time. She is the author of Securely Attached as well as Raising Securely Attached Kids. Eli has three children, one husband, two cats, and an extraordinary number of plants. Learn more about her work at AttachmentNerd.com. View titles by Eli Harwood

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A practical roadmap for anyone determined to parent differently than they were raised.

Because our kids can feel what we don't heal.


The one book you wish your parents had, and your children will be glad you read. 

Healing from your own upbringing is hard enough—but how do you do that work while being the parent you wish you had?

In this potent resource for parents and parents-to-be, licensed therapist and educator Eli Harwood targets the feelings, mindsets, and habits that often sabotage our parenting. Organized alphabetically by growth areas—many of which are symptoms of an insecure or traumatic past—this book provides punchy guidance to heal from things like:  

  • dealing with anger and anxiety
  • our relationship with body image
  • our tendency for people-pleasing and comparing ourselves (and our kids)

...so our kids don't have to.

This book will help you heal yourself in order to become the best parent you can be.

Author

ELI HARWOOD, MA, LPC is a licensed therapist, bestselling author, and highly sought-after educator who has almost two decades of experience helping people develop secure connections with their children. She is on a mission to help make the world a better place, one relationship at a time. She is the author of Securely Attached as well as Raising Securely Attached Kids. Eli has three children, one husband, two cats, and an extraordinary number of plants. Learn more about her work at AttachmentNerd.com. View titles by Eli Harwood

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