The Zen of You and Me

A Guide to Getting Along with Just About Anyone

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This approachable guide conflict resolution offers practical advice on how to manage difficult conversations and foster healthier relationships—the Zen way

The people who get under your skin the most can in fact be your greatest teachers.  It’s not a matter of overlooking differences, as is often taught, but of regarding those difficult aspects of the relationship with curiosity and compassion—for those very differences offer a path to profound connection. 
 
Diane Hamilton’s practical, reality-based guide to living harmoniously with even your most irritating fellow humans—spouses, partners, colleagues, parents, children—shows that “getting along” is really a matter of discovering that our differences are nothing other than an expression of our even deeper shared unity.
DIANE MUSHO HAMILTON is an award-winning professional mediator, author, facilitator, and teacher of Zen and Integral Spirituality. She has been a practitioner of meditation for more than thirty years. Diane facilitates Big Mind Big Heart, a process developed to help elicit the insights of Zen in Western audiences. Diane is considered a pioneer in articulating the wisdom of an Integral Life Practice and has worked with Ken Wilber and the Integral Institute in Denver, Colorado, since 2004. She is also the cofounder of Two Arrows Zen, a center for Zen practice and study in Salt Lake City, Utah with her husband, Michael Mugaku Zimmerman. In 2012 she cofounded Integral Facilitator, her uniquely developmental approach to group facilitation mastery.

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This approachable guide conflict resolution offers practical advice on how to manage difficult conversations and foster healthier relationships—the Zen way

The people who get under your skin the most can in fact be your greatest teachers.  It’s not a matter of overlooking differences, as is often taught, but of regarding those difficult aspects of the relationship with curiosity and compassion—for those very differences offer a path to profound connection. 
 
Diane Hamilton’s practical, reality-based guide to living harmoniously with even your most irritating fellow humans—spouses, partners, colleagues, parents, children—shows that “getting along” is really a matter of discovering that our differences are nothing other than an expression of our even deeper shared unity.

Author

DIANE MUSHO HAMILTON is an award-winning professional mediator, author, facilitator, and teacher of Zen and Integral Spirituality. She has been a practitioner of meditation for more than thirty years. Diane facilitates Big Mind Big Heart, a process developed to help elicit the insights of Zen in Western audiences. Diane is considered a pioneer in articulating the wisdom of an Integral Life Practice and has worked with Ken Wilber and the Integral Institute in Denver, Colorado, since 2004. She is also the cofounder of Two Arrows Zen, a center for Zen practice and study in Salt Lake City, Utah with her husband, Michael Mugaku Zimmerman. In 2012 she cofounded Integral Facilitator, her uniquely developmental approach to group facilitation mastery.

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