The One Who Broke You Can't Heal You

Let Go of Toxic Bonds and Build Healthy Ones

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On sale Jan 06, 2026 | 256 Pages | 9780593580813

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A validating and prescriptive guide on how to break the bonds that tear us down and create the ones that build us up, from the celebrated author of Welcome Home

We are bound to people in our romantic relationships and friendships, in our families and at work. And those bonds push and pull at us in ways that might make us feel stuck, dispensable, or unstable. Those bonds can also make us feel valued, respected, and truly loved. The One Who Broke You Can't Heal You shines a light on the healthy bonds we deserve in our lives. You will learn about the bonds that you are participating in and the price you may be paying from your authenticity. You will learn that you can break the bonds that hurt and build the ones that heal. 

The One Who Broke You Can't Heal You examines several different types of bonds, including:
convenient bonds, trauma bonds, toxic bonds, forced bonds, enabling bonds, transactional bonds, and healthy bonds.

One truth will always stand: The most important bond you have in your life is the one with yourself. By keeping that bond strong and healthy, you can create nourishing, soul-to-soul bonds with others.
© Farah Benni
Dr. Najwa Zebian, Ed.D., is a Lebanese Canadian activist, author, speaker, and educator with a doctorate in Educational Leadership. Dr. Zebian began to write in an effort to connect with and heal her first students, a group of young refugees, but found that she was also writing to heal herself. In her first book, Welcome Home, she presented a guide for people to become a safe space for themselves, to see themselves through their own eyes, and to leave self-abandoning patterns behind.
 
The author of three collections of poetry, Dr. Zebian delivered the TEDx talk “Finding Home Through Poetry” and recently launched a digital school, Soul Academy, and a podcast, Stories of the Soul. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, Glamour, Elle Canada, HuffPost, and more. View titles by Najwa Zebian

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A validating and prescriptive guide on how to break the bonds that tear us down and create the ones that build us up, from the celebrated author of Welcome Home

We are bound to people in our romantic relationships and friendships, in our families and at work. And those bonds push and pull at us in ways that might make us feel stuck, dispensable, or unstable. Those bonds can also make us feel valued, respected, and truly loved. The One Who Broke You Can't Heal You shines a light on the healthy bonds we deserve in our lives. You will learn about the bonds that you are participating in and the price you may be paying from your authenticity. You will learn that you can break the bonds that hurt and build the ones that heal. 

The One Who Broke You Can't Heal You examines several different types of bonds, including:
convenient bonds, trauma bonds, toxic bonds, forced bonds, enabling bonds, transactional bonds, and healthy bonds.

One truth will always stand: The most important bond you have in your life is the one with yourself. By keeping that bond strong and healthy, you can create nourishing, soul-to-soul bonds with others.

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© Farah Benni
Dr. Najwa Zebian, Ed.D., is a Lebanese Canadian activist, author, speaker, and educator with a doctorate in Educational Leadership. Dr. Zebian began to write in an effort to connect with and heal her first students, a group of young refugees, but found that she was also writing to heal herself. In her first book, Welcome Home, she presented a guide for people to become a safe space for themselves, to see themselves through their own eyes, and to leave self-abandoning patterns behind.
 
The author of three collections of poetry, Dr. Zebian delivered the TEDx talk “Finding Home Through Poetry” and recently launched a digital school, Soul Academy, and a podcast, Stories of the Soul. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, Glamour, Elle Canada, HuffPost, and more. View titles by Najwa Zebian